If your mind feels like it has a “constant noise” switch that never turns off, you’re not alone. Overthinking is one of the most common patterns people in their 20s and 30s struggle with—especially during times of stress, uncertainty, or self-doubt. You may lie awake replaying conversations, planning for every possible scenario, or spiraling into worst-case what-ifs. It can feel exhausting and impossible to shut down.

But overthinking isn’t a personal flaw it’s your brain trying to protect you. In this blog, we break down why your mind gets stuck in overthinking mode, how anxiety fuels the cycle, and simple grounding tools that actually help calm your nervous system and bring you back into the present moment.

Living in New York in your 20s and 30s comes with a unique kind of psychological weight. You’re building your career, identity, relationships, and stability while surrounded by people who seem to be doing everything just a little bit faster. Even if you don’t subscribe to hustle culture, you’re immersed in it busy streets, packed schedules, and the constant pressure to always be “on.”

My clients often describe feeling like they’re constantly behind, not because they’re actually falling short, but because the city doesn’t offer many chances to feel ahead. The pace makes it easy to disconnect from your own goals and fall into a silent comparison loop. Over time, that creates a version of burnout that isn’t just physical exhaustion, it’s emotional, existential, and deeply tied to identity.

Therapy can help you unlearn the belief that your value is measured by how quickly you move through life. In NYC, that belief feels normal but it’s often the very thing pulling people away from feeling grounded, confident, and connected to themselves.

Learn why “I’ll be happy when…” thinking leads to burnout. Understand the arrival fallacy and get practical tips to feel fulfilled now.

If you’ve ever caught yourself thinking, “I should be doing more,” or “Why am I never enough?”, you’re not alone. This blog explores the deeper roots of chronic self-doubt, perfectionism, and burnout — and why so many high-achieving adults struggle to feel worthy, even when they’re doing everything “right.” Learn how early experiences, anxiety, and unrealistic expectations shape your self-esteem, and discover therapist-backed tools to help you rebuild confidence, set boundaries, and finally feel like you’re enough.